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It’s been a difficult week

First, my six month old son Bren­dan spent a day in the emer­gency room and a night in the hos­pi­tal, after the cold he had been fight­ing for the past three weeks evolved into what the doc­tors first thought was pneu­mo­nia, but later diag­nosed as acute viral bronchiali­tis. He’s home now and doing much bet­ter. Over the week­end, how­ever, my wife and I expe­ri­enced how gut-wrenchingly dif­fi­cult it is to be the par­ent of a very sick baby who is suf­fer­ing when you can’t do any­thing to make it better.

Of much lesser impor­tance, I was chal­lenged on two posts I had made here regard­ing a lec­ture on color by Gray­don Par­rish that I attended. In an excess of enthu­si­asm, I had shared my lec­ture notes on this blog, even though atten­dees were asked to be dis­creet. I was asked in no uncer­tain terms to take the posts down, which I did imme­di­ately because it was Graydon’s stuff and he did not want it out there. I received con­sid­er­able crit­i­cism on the Cen­nini Forum for hav­ing posted in the first place, which I accepted because I was wrong to have done so with­out ask­ing per­mis­sion first. I would describe the expe­ri­ence as an excel­lent character-building exer­cise, but no fun at all.

I’m sorry I have not posted any­thing about art here in the last week or so. I’ll get back to that soon.


p.s. In the midst of the post­ing fiasco I was also accused of pre­sent­ing myself as hav­ing some kind of direct con­nec­tion to Gray­don Par­rish. I don’t think I have done so, but I’d like to state here unequiv­o­cally that I have absolutely no rela­tion­ship with Mr. Par­rish other than hav­ing attended a lec­ture by him and par­tic­i­pat­ing on an inter­net forum where he posts from time to time.


p.p.s. I am very thank­ful to the peo­ple who have writ­ten to me to offer their support.

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  1. Anna Sellers says

    All the best wishes to you and your wife. I hope that Bren­dan is back to good health and nor­mal baby stuff soon. I remem­ber sleep­ing with one eye and both ears open when mine were sick. I also remem­ber being thank­ful when they were back to doing the annoy­ing things they do when they were well. It is amaz­ing how hav­ing chil­dren keeps life in perspective.

    The Cen­nini group is a tough crowd. I, per­son­ally, would never have heard of Gray­don Par­rish had you not posted about him.

  2. David says

    Thanks, Anna.

  3. jeff freedner says

    I wish your baby Bren­dan a speedy recov­ery, I am a father of a 17 year old, who drank some stuff when she was a baby, and I know what your going through. They are very resilient and strong beings, before you know it he will be ask­ing for the car keys to go out with his friends, and a whole new set of wor­ries will be rac­ing through your head.

    Cheers.

  4. bruce says

    Happy to hear your baby is bet­ter. That sort of thing defi­nately puts every­thing else into per­spec­tive. Don’t sweat the Par­rish thing. I’ve read of sim­i­lar stuff from other sources (New Cri­te­rion). There is a cer­tain whiff of the “true believer” hang­ing around those folks. I never got any sense that you were pass­ing your­self off as a mem­ber of the inner cir­cle. Maybe just a lit­tle bit of hero wor­ship. Admir­ing someone’s skill doesn’t require admir­ing them. A lot of artists, clas­si­cal, mod­ern or oth­er­wise are ahles. Make the art you like, admire who you choose and take care of your fam­ily. I enjoy and learn from this blog. Keep up the good work. (Don’t let the basds get ya down).

  5. David says

    Thanks, Jeff. After his brief hos­pi­tal stay, Bren­dan picked up some kind of stom­ach thing in addi­tion to the cold, so we’ve had lots of fun over the last few days. For­tu­nately, he is slowly get­ting better.

    Thanks, Bruce. I didn’t get slagged by Gray­don, but by oth­ers who crit­i­cized me for post­ing infor­ma­tion from his lec­ture, which I should not have done. I am happy to have the episode behind me.

  6. ScottWms says

    You were unfairly maligned. You were sin­gled out and made an exam­ple of pub­li­cally, when a dis­creet, pri­vate email to you in the first place would have resolved the issue. I sus­pect the par­ties involved were try­ing to suck-up to Gray­don. You have shown tremen­dous humil­ity and con­tri­tion dur­ing all of this in your responses. I don’t know how you were able to do that, con­sid­er­ing the cir­cum­stances. Any­way, I hope you will con­tinue to fuel your blog with the kind of mate­r­ial you have in the past.

    Glad your baby is on the mend. I remem­ber our daugh­ter, when she was a lit­tle older than Bren­dan, devel­oped a high fever and had a febrile seizure that landed her in the hos­pi­tal for a cou­ple of days. You never get over that sense of help­less­ness you experience.

    Best wishes,

     ---->  Scott
    
  7. David says

    Scott,

    I, too, wish the mat­ter had been han­dled via pri­vate email.

    Thanks very much for your support.

  8. Mark Reep says

    My com­ment is entirely off-topic– Learned of your blog from Charley Parker’s link at L&C, just wanted to say great blog, great resource. Hope your lit­tle one is fully recovered.

  9. David says

    Thanks, Mark.

    I’ve encoun­tered your site before and have it book­marked. Your work is beau­ti­ful, and the demos are really well done.

  10. William Dashwood says

    I am sorry that you had to endure the wrath of the worst inter­net troll out there—Rob Howard is clearly a mega­lo­ma­niac. He gags me. Wit­ness­ing your pub­lic humil­i­a­tion was ter­ri­bly painful. Isn’t there some­where else on the web that has great info and great clas­si­cal paint­ing prod­ucts? Cen­nini Forum is in my opin­ion the worst kind of tar baby. You shouldn’t have to put up with it— you are a won­der­ful artist, a hus­band, and a father in your own right.

  11. David says

    William,

    Although under the cir­cum­stances I think I should not have posted the infor­ma­tion I did, I would cer­tainly have pre­ferred if the issue had been addressed pri­vately. But no, actu­ally, I don’t know of any­where else on the web with the kind of prac­ti­cal infor­ma­tion that is rou­tinely pro­vided at the Cen­nini forum. It’s a very tough crowd, but I con­tinue to find it worthwhile.

    Thanks very much for the support.

  12. ScottWms says

    David, Now that this episode is behind you, how do you move for­ward in terms of adding new con­tent to your blog? I know on Cen­nini you men­tioned being more care­ful about attri­bu­tions and get­ting prior con­sent before post­ing some infor­ma­tion. Do you feel your hands are tied now? I per­son­ally felt you pro­vided suf­fi­cient credit for all the con­tent you posted pre­vi­ously (short of foot­not­ing every­thing). My per­sonal take on most art related blogs is that they are per­sonal jour­nals of work, processes, inter­ests and influ­ences. It needs to be more free-wheeling than com­pos­ing a the­sis or writ­ing an arti­cle for pub­li­ca­tion. Most con­tent would fall under a “fair use” clas­si­fi­ca­tion because it is for edu­ca­tional pur­poses, not per­sonal profit (although you may want to drop the “Donate” but­ton). I hope in the future you’ll con­tinue to fuel your blog as you have in the past, with aban­don and passion.

    One final request, more posts on Tem­pera and Tem­pera Grassa!

     ---->  Scott
    
  13. William Dashwood says

    David— The web is huge and I think you will find that the same—or better—information from other sources that will not brow­beat you in the process. It is com­mon­place for rebuked accolytes to return chas­tened to the mas­ter for more. What a snowjob! Cen­nini has no cor­ner mar­ket on this infor­ma­tion. Most suc­cess­ful artists that I know and admire have cre­ated their mas­ter­works with­out the per­mis­sions of Mr. Howard and his minions.

  14. William Dashwood says

    PS— You say you don’t know of any fur­ther sources of infor­ma­tion. By that, you mean ” at present”. But I assure you, what you seek is out there and prob­a­bly closer than you think. The notion of some­one ask­ing you if YOUR site will be cur­tailed because of restric­tions on infor­ma­tion via Cen­nini—- that is a hor­ri­ble thought and tan­ta­mount to intel­lec­tual slav­ery, if true. You can find what you seek else­where with­out per­mis­sion or approval. And with peo­ple who won’t kick you like a dog when­ever it suits them. Rest assured, you won’t be the first— or the last— to feel the Howard lash. But it really is all so point­less. What you need is right there for you, among civil peo­ple— even among friends. ;)

  15. David says

    William,

    There are many sources of infor­ma­tion out there. While every inter­net art forum, includ­ing Cen­nini, has lots of BS, I don’t know of any with a bet­ter sig­nal to noise ratio. I have learned more there than from every other site on the inter­net combined.

    I have no inten­tion of being sub­servient there, here, or any­where else. I’ll defend myself when I think I’m right. I will be thought­ful about what I post here, but my inten­tion is still to pro­vide a site where use­ful infor­ma­tion on art is avail­able to everyone.

    But thanks for help­ing me think this through.

  16. William Dashwood says

    David— I’m sorry, but I just don’t see why it is nec­es­sary to asso­ciate with peo­ple who revel in humil­i­at­ing and caus­ing other peo­ple pain, all for a mis­guided feel­ing of power. You erred in pub­lish­ing notes that you had no per­mis­sion to make pub­lic. It showed a lot of char­ac­ter for you to apol­o­gize as you did under the cir­cum­stances. But the response was more than overkill. It was meant to humil­i­ate you in pub­lic. That was not nec­es­sary. More than mere overkill: it was cruel.

    As I said, all of the past and mod­ern mas­ter­pieces of art were cre­ated with­out the aid of your forum. But if you feel you need it to be an artist and move for­ward, then by all means go there. Just remem­ber the old adage about play­ing with snakes….

  17. William Dashwood says

    Tony Ryder: The New Thomas Kinkade?

    I see that the haters over at the Gray­don Par­rish Sociey ( Cen­nini Forum ) are in rare form this morning—making ludi­crous com­ments about Tony Ryder, Jacob Collins, David Lef­fel, and Mar­vin Mattelson.

    A Rob Howard gem:

    Learn­ing to draw from Ryder is not like learn­ing from Raphael or Degas. It’s a hel­luva lot closer to Thomas Kinkade as far as level of aes­thet­ics is concerned. ..”

    http://​forums​.stu​dio​prod​ucts​.com/​s​h​o​w​t​h​r​e​a​d​.​p​h​p​?​t​=​28035

  18. David says

    William,

    I cer­tainly do not agree with every­thing said there (or any­where). I respect Tony Ryder (and his book), although I, too, some­times find his work a lit­tle fussy. Hav­ing stud­ied with another stu­dent of Ted Seth Jacobs, I think have a slightly bet­ter sense of where he is com­ing from than most folks who just look at his web site or his book (though I have never met him). I could point out that, later in the post, Gray­don Par­rish wrote a very rea­son­able defense of Ryder (and Collins).

    In my expe­ri­ence, it is the nature of the inter­net for dis­cus­sion places to tend toward either firm polite­ness or a sort of open bitch­i­ness. Cen­nini is one of the latter.

    Many peo­ple just can’t stand that kind of dis­course. It sticks in their craw every time they read a series of unnec­es­sar­ily mean or thought­less com­ments. I grew up with peo­ple who talk like that in real life and some of them are still among my best friends. I am aware of, yet gen­er­ally will­ing to tol­er­ate, their faults. When they act like jerks I ignore them; or some­times we choose to get mad at each other. Then we get over it.

    If you are not com­fort­able with peo­ple who act like that, then Cen­nini will drive you nuts. That’s OK—don’t go there. As it is, I just skim many threads because they get so silly or nar­cis­sis­tic. But then I hit one that con­tains amaz­ing gems of infor­ma­tion. Those make it worth com­ing back, at least for me. Your mileage obvi­ously varies.

  19. EFT Studios says

    Hello David… Just stop­ping in as I am a new lurker at Cen­nini and an old poster at WC…
    Sorry for your trou­bles of late…the one at Cen­nini was han­dled with style and grace on your part. Hope­fully it is the last you will hear of that…
    and like you, I skim the threads look­ing for gems of infor­ma­tion.
    I am,however, so glad I found your argu­ment and looked you up and found your blog…another won­der­ful wealth of infor­ma­tion!
    Hope you and your lit­tle one are bet­ter and can move on to bet­ter health and qui­eter days!
    I will def­i­nitely check back here reg­u­larly to absorb more of your won­der­ful information!

  20. Lumpy says

    Not that it is unheard of….but, Rob has now banned Gray­don. After all the suck­ing up that rob did to Graydon…wow…in my opin­ion, rob is nutttts!!!!! And, I think jeal­ous. I bet he will take credit for the whole Mun­sell dis­cov­ery, now. And, I hear that Richard Mur­dock was also banned. Did I get the last name right?



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